Very much hate to hear anyone going through this mess. You have my most sincere thoughts and well wishes, and yes...prayers.
I have been where you are...right up to the "Christian" ex wife, lying, cheating, manipulating, vindictive, and malicious. I took my Dad's and Pastors advice (who both knew the truth) and just let her talk and take the so called high road. BOY, WHAT A MISTAKE! !
She embarked upon a public misinformation campaign that would have put a Clinton campaign manager to shame and the good church folks set aside any gift of discernment and sucked it up like a sponge, and the Pastor didn't have spine enough to set the record straight. It all but destroyed my faith in people.
But, I realized from the beginning to separate religion and these people's actions from my faith in God. However; it has takene 10 years to be able to find a Church .
I cannot explain what the deal is with the women these days. I cannot tell you how many good men I have seen in your situation.
It will get worse before it gets better. DO NOT TRY TO BE
NICE or take the high road throughout the divorce proceedings. You will never receive any mercy or compassion from a woman in this situation. You are doing right by filing first.
Best of luck to you.