I have been wanting a new tattoo since my son was born. My wife has resisted some, but since I have picked a font for the names of my children and the bible verse I want, she has really stepped up her protest. I talked to a good friend yesterday and the advice he gave was "our decisions are not only about us". So I decided to comprise and lose the verse. As I tried to get my wife to help pick the exact location, she was really mad. It took me about 3 hours, 2 hrs 59 mins and 59 secs too long, to finally realize what i needed to do. There will not be another tattoo and I will cancel my appointment. Just wanted to share my experience so maybe some young, newly married or new child, man will learn from my mistakes. It is the others in our lives that make our life what it is. My wife keeps my home running, my kids going, and gets me out of bed in the mornings.
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sounds like a smart move
After being married for 26 years I have come to the same conclusion Ray.We have to base our wants and needs on what two of us think and not be selfish enough to make bad decisions because we want something. By including your wife's wishes in that decision you have certainly strengthened the bond you have with her. That is the way to make your marriage last forever IMO. How ever if it were a turkey gun you were discussing buying you may have to take a little more time to convince her it is the right move. (joke). God bless you young man you are making the right decisions in life for your family.
As long as its a two way street I have no problem traveling that road.
Good choice. If you like to read, pick up the book "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. This book reveals a very simple, but very profound approach to marriage and marriage difficulties. This principle has been a real eye opener for me.
Quote from: lightsoutcalls on June 20, 2011, 09:34:32 AM
Good choice. If you like to read, pick up the book "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. This book reveals a very simple, but very profound approach to marriage and marriage difficulties. This principle has been a real eye opener for me.
I 2nd the book!
I would've got the tattoo and told her the clothes and dishes better be washed by the time i got back.
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just kidding. :lol: You did the right thing. :icon_thumright:
Respecting and considerng the feelings of your wife is a wise move.
3rd the book.
Quote from: OLE RASPY on June 20, 2011, 12:18:42 PM
I would've got the tattoo and told her the clothes and dishes better be washed by the time i got back.
lol
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just kidding. :lol: You did the right thing. :icon_thumright:
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I do understand your decision somewhat to keep peace & harmony in the household, but I really don't think it would be a mistake to honor your children with a tattoo of their names & a bible verse. Sounds like you already have one tattoo. I never was the tattoo type but I always appreciated beautiful art. When my son died 5 years ago , I got a tattoo as a tribute to him & I have never regretted it. Just my opinion .
vaturkey :newmascot:
As a married man with young children I say wise choice, but i also say you gained bargaining chips on something else later. :icon_thumright:
Get the tatoo, and show her who's boss. Of course I've been divorced twice, so take that advice for what it's worth :TooFunny:
Where as I agree that giving in to the wife is not a bad move. A strong negotiator never gives in with out getting something in return. The price of a tat to could be close the price of an out state hunting trip ;)
I do have a plan . . .
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You're a good man Ray. As a husband and father our wants and needs are secondary until SPRING!!! DSD will be better in the Spring than a tat.
I tell young couples all the time" marriage is like a checking account in some ways, if you are going to make withdrawls , you got make bigger deposits!"
Quote from: Preacher on June 21, 2011, 09:13:14 AM
I tell young couples all the time" marriage is like a checking account in some ways, if you are going to make withdrawls , you got make bigger deposits!"
Well said Preacher !! :icon_thumright: :newmascot:
To add to Preacher's comment, those deposits add up and often bear "interest".
Just be cautious that you don't make decisions with the "return" being your primary focus. I celebrated 24 years of marriage yesterday and have gained some insight along the way. I can assure you it wasn't all a cake-walk! That said, I'm looking forward to the next 24.
One little parting thought...
Disappointment is the result of unmet expectations. Unmet expectations are most always based in selfishness or self-focused thought.